Ministers and other church leaders can get so involved with church activities and balancing other family activities that they miss out on spending some time just communicating with their spouse. Here are some questions we encouraged our marriage class to discuss over these coming weeks. You might want to consider taking time away from the hustle and bustle of ministry and life to offer the Valentines gift of communication to your spouse. Consider using these questions as your guide.

The questions were included in a workbook from the I Still Do Conference sponsored by FamilyLife Ministries. Thanks FamilyLife for all you do to support marriages!

10 Questions a Husband Should Ask His Wife Every Year 

• What could I do to make you feel more loved? 
• What could I do to make you feel more respected? 
• What could I do to make you feel more understood? 
• What could I do to make you feel more secure? 
• What could I do to make you feel more confident in our future direction? 
• What attribute would you like me to try and develop? 
• What attribute would you like me to help you develop? 
• What achievement in my life would bring you the greatest joy?
• What would indicate to you that I really desire to be more Christlike?
• What mutual goal would you like to see us accomplish?

10 Questions a Wife Should Ask Her Husband Every Year 

• Do you feel I properly understand the goals that God has placed in your heart? How can I help you achieve them?
• What are some things I can do to regularly show you just how satisfied I am with you as my husband and the leader of our home?
• Is there anything I am doing or failing to do that seems to send a signal that I do not honor you or your leadership in our home?
• Is there anything I can change to make our home a place where you feel more satisfied and comfortable?
• Are there any big dreams in your heart that you have been hesitant to share with me? How can I help you fulfill them?
• How do you feel we can begin communicating better than we already are?
• Do you feel that there is anything keeping either one or both of us from God’s best in our lives? What should be my part in freeing us from those restraints?
• Are we where you wanted us to be at this stage in life? How can I help you make that possible within God’s guidelines?
• How do you envision our future together? What can we do together to achieve that goal?
• What can I do to show you how much I need and trust you?